If you’re currently a member of a web dating site about Asian women or Chinese women then you’re probably there because you’re looking for a change from the type of personal relationships that now seem to exist between Western Men and Western Women. You’re tired of women who grew up in the “ME” generation, always looking strictly for “What’s in this relationship for me?” Nowadays, when you meet a new Western Woman who you find attractive, before the conversation has even really begun, she’s already drilling you about your occupation and your assets. How much money do you make and how much “stuff” do you have.
You’ve heard that Chinese Women are different than that, so you’re online to check it out.
Well first, let’s be honest. A Chinese Woman will also want to know that you have an income and that you are financially stable. Like women everywhere, she also wants a secure future. The difference is, most Chinese Women come from a world where a normal job is a great job, a simple home is a great home, and family is everything. Will there be food on the table – good enough. Will we have a home that I can clean and cook in and make comfortable for you – good enough. You’re a truck driver (mechanic, teacher, male nurse, etc) – that’s fantastic. Just be reliable.
If you want a simple life where you do your job, which is the primary income earner, and she does her job, which is manage the home and family, then Chinese women make great life partners. That’s not to say that she won’t help you with business if that’s what you want, but you’ll be the boss. And it doesn’t mean she’s not prepared to have a job too. She will likely prove to be a very hard worker. It does mean that running the home is her job as well. You will have a say in all the important decisions, but when it comes to day to day operations sit back and let her take over, it’s what she does best.
But here is the most important thing – a Chinese Woman marries for life. Once she commits, she will invest every ounce of her being into your future, your home, your family and your life together. If that is the kind of wife you want, then you’re in the right place. Her priorities in approximate order are husband and children, parents (hers and yours), home, face (what does the world think of your family), herself, her importance to you, her job, her friends.
Chinese women want to love you and they want to be loved by you. Unlike Western Women, they will not be out to instantly change you the moment they have their grip on you. So long as you meet two requirements they will be happy. First, you must love them. Second, you must not be frivolous with money; that is you won’t spend your last dime on whiskey when the kids are hungry. Well frankly, if you are that frivolous with money then you really need a Chinese Woman more than she needs you.
Chinese women like to spend as much time with you as possible. The more you can be together the happier they are. They’re happy to go out with you and play, spend time at the movies, relax in a pub with your friends, walk on a beach, anything so long as she is with you. Equally a quiet night at home is perfect. To her, time with her husband is important. But that doesn’t mean you have to be with her every moment, it just means that every moment of your time you do give to her will be appreciated.
Unlike Western Women, a Chinese Woman will not sit around with her buddies secretly badmouthing you. To her, if you look bad she looks bad, and she would lose face. So long as you are covering the bare basics, she will outwardly praise you to the roof, because if her friends think you look good, then she gains face. And if she says you’re a bad husband, then implicitly she is failing as a wife.
China’s economy is growing fast, and these days most Chinese are proud of their place in the world and believe in their future. Just the same, the chance to live in the West, to get a passport from your country, to improve her economic status remains a potential motive for marrying a Western Man. But if it is so, it is low on a long list of motives. The number one motivator by far for a Chinese Woman to seek to marry a Western Man is that she is undervalued by Chinese Men. She wants someone who will appreciate her for the many things she does for him, who will treat her with respect, who will love her. She often cannot find that at home.